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Dana Leigh Lyons's avatar

Thanks so much for sharing with us, Shane! I find it so useful to consider what shame might be showing us, rather than just trying to ignore it or stamp it out.

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Shane Willbanks's avatar

You're welcome! Yes, I got so tired of letting shame bring me down so I figured it's time to flip the script and use it as a guide

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Kristen Crocker's avatar

Thank you for this! Pride is such a funny thing….i love the idea of being “right sized” — not sinking into shame or going into grandiosity.

Also love the image of pride waving while mowing the lawn 😊 thank you for sharing!!

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Shane Willbanks's avatar

You're so welcome! Yes, I love thinking of pride as that quiet, friendly, lawn-mowing neighbor who brings over dessert just because :)

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MagaDefense's avatar

Thank you!

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Shane Willbanks's avatar

You're welcome!

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Kristin's avatar

Beautiful and very helpful!

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Shane Willbanks's avatar

Thank you!

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Jerry Waxler's avatar

Hey this is neat! I just used it for something that was bothering me this morning and it worked!! I am so amazed how sobriety leads to such deep insight, especially into those dark unmentionable domains of shame. Thanks.

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Shane Willbanks's avatar

That's awesome, Jerry. It's wonderful seeing this put to practical use. Thanks for sharing that

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Allison Deraney's avatar

I loved this Shane! What a tremendous resources to this community. I especially appreciate the shame inventory.

So many good nuggets here. Shame kept me stuck for so long, even after I untangled from drinking. I love the reframe you provide - how we can actually appreciate shame as something pointing towards our values.

Appreciate you! 🙏🏼

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Shane Willbanks's avatar

Thank you, Allison. Shame has been my bane and I feel great power turning it on its head and using it for a good outcome

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